I was a huge nerd growing up in a very strict Asian household that only valued academic education and career success.  While other kids played outside, I was forced to study math and science at home in isolation.  This suffocating environment made me socially underdeveloped and awkward around people in public.

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Kids constantly made fun of me in school for my dorky persona.  Having huge glasses and excess fat further fueled my insecurities.  I was so anxious in public that I hid from people. Despite all that, a few girls liked me and would write me notes in class to flirt with me.   Even though I liked them back, I was too scared to talk to them.  Eventually they found boyfriends.  To cope with my loneliness, I escaped into the world of comic books and video games.  Deep down inside, I just wanted other kids to like me, the same way they liked Spiderman or Goku.

Things didn’t get much better in college.  I had envisioned epic parties and wild hookups, but in reality, I didn’t know how to blend in with the fun crowd.  Instead, I hung around Christian youth groups since they accepted anyone who “worshipped God”.  Later on, I befriended a few girl classmates.  I even worked up the courage to ask them out… and then got brutally rejected.  I took the rejection to heart and could not have felt more lonely, depressed, and lost.  I felt like a victim and that there was something so inherently wrong with me.  I prayed that someday one girl will accept me and cure my loneliness.   

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After college, things gradually started to change-- I worked a good finance job and got very physically fit.  Girls even started telling me that I’m good looking.  I didn’t turn into a social butterfly but I felt better about myself with my new found sense of confidence around my improved looks walking at 8% body fat.  Then one day, I met this girl named Kimberly at a friend’s birthday party.  Meeting her would forever alter the course of my life.  It was love at first sight… there was an instant spark of chemistry the moment we said hi.  We found out we had so much in common and quickly exchanged numbers.  After the party, she texted me.. asking me to out to dinner.  My reality was shaken.. I was in disbelief… did this girl really just ask me out..?  I thought she was the one…. the one that would cure my loneliness…

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A week later, we went on a date.  We started the date at a nice restaurant and went back to her place afterwards, watching a movie on the couch.  It was a new experience for me, being alone with a girl in her home.  I thought to myself, something could happen, I could actually get laid.  As we watched the movie, she would periodically look at me, slowly holding her gaze.. like she wanted to kiss.  I was nervous and clueless, and didn’t know what to do.  I didn’t not make even one single move the whole time at her place.  After the movie I told her I had to go and left.  I chickened out.  A few days later, she told me she wasn’t interested and that “I’m a nice guy”.  I was devastated.  I thought when it came to love, she was my one hope in this world, and I still blew it.  I feel into deep depression, one that was worse than anything I’ve experienced before. 

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To make matters worse, shit continued to pile on: my parents divorced, I began working 80 hours a week, and had shoulder surgery.  There were days when I would drive home and hyperventilate in the car.  The pain was so great that there were moments when I just wanted to end myself.  To cope with the pain, I ran everyday for six months.  Then one day, for some miraculous reason, I snapped out of it.  I was running in the park and I no longer fell depressed. 

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It was around that same time that I found out about men’s self development and dating coaching programs.  And I realized I had needed them.  I realized that no matter how much money I make, or how fit I get, if I don’t take control of my dating life I will forever be lonely.  I started to put myself out there, countless days and nights talking to random girls.  It was brutal at first, rejection after rejection, but I learned to let go of my ego.  After working with some of the best coaches and thousands of approaches, I began to successfully take control of my dating life.  Over the years, I’ve been able to connect with many gorgeous women from all corners the world.  I knew that whether I saw girl at a grocery store, a park, a night club, I could make something happen. 

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As I’ve grasped this area of my life.  I want to help others that went through struggles.  I want to do everything in my power to help you maximize your dating potential.